Lack the Element of Personality. It may be so, but it is precisely the distinction which we are aware of in our own lives so far as we keep ourselves consciously under the divine governance. We know that 'one custom overcometh another,' and that one idea supplants another. This is an imperfect attempt to make Charlotte's words accessible to modern parents. It means just the reverse; it means a psychology particularly fragile and into which the waters of metaphysical criticism leak at every joint, a psychology all of whose elementary assumptions and data must be reconsidered in wider connections and translated into other terms It is, in short, a phrase of diffidence and not of arrogance, and it is indeed strange to hear people talk triumphantly of the 'New Psychology' and write 'Histories of Psychology' when into the real elements and forces, which the word covers, not the first glimpse of clear insight exists.
To look a gift horse in the mouth is unworthy, and it would seem pure captiousness to detect any source of weakness in a system of psychology to which our indebtedness is so great. Even when we can't get them to comply, we try to dominate them too much. By degrees pocket-money should include the cost of gloves, handkerchiefs, etc. A few decades ago we too were in a furore of joyous excitement about education. For the first time, I saw that all I had been striving toward was doable! The constraining power of authority must be ever-present, but passive so that the child doesn't feel like he's confined against his will.
Again, the children take advantage, so we say; the real fact being that they have caught their mother's mood and are fretful and tiresome. It was to this effect. At length le grand moment arrived. Is the environment too perfectly tempered? The children must know themselves to be let alone, whether to do their own duty or to seek their own pleasure. The object of the fine physical culture that English youths and maidens receive is, too often, the poor and narrow one that they may get the most, especially the most of physical enjoyment, out of life; and so young people train their bodies to hardships, and pamper them with ease and self-indulgence, by turns, the one and the other being for their own pleasure; the pampering being the more delightful after the period of training, the training itself rather a pleasant change from the softness of pampering.
That highest form of confidence, known to us as faith, is necessary to full repose of mind and manner. These are cases for treatment; and a child who has been cured by his mother of some such blemish will not be slow to believe when he grows up in the possibility of reform for others, and in the use of simple, practical means. These are the habitudes which it is the part of parents to give their children, and, indeed, they do form part of the training of all well brought-up young people; but it is well not to lose sight of this part of our work. These fine rolling sentences, full of matter, made, I recollect, a great impression on me; and one can understand that the Greek or Roman boy, brought up on this strong meat, developed virtues in regard to which we are a little slack. The children like it, too, at first--Dad's birthday is coming and Nicole must recite a poem for him, but the little performance was only thought of a week in advance, so Nicole is summoned at all sorts of random moments to have some lines of the poem crammed into her. Augustus Hare have been known to the world since the Memorials of a Quiet Life were published by this very son; and when we find how this lady misinterpreted the part of mother to her adopted and dearly beloved son, we know that we are not reading of the mistakes of an unworthy or even of a commonplace woman. For us, everything was decreed, and all decrees were final.
When it occurs to a child to reflect on his behaviour, he should have that sense of liberty which makes good behaviour appear to him a matter of his preference and choice. Masterly inactivity allows a child to learn on their own, without our intervention. Every relation must be initiated by its own 'captain' Cf. It knows nothing of itself and nothing of other things. We in England have not the wealth of moral teaching carved in wood and stone——so that the unlettered may read and learn——which some neighbouring countries rejoice in, but our teaching, until the present generation, has been systematic and thorough. We all know the vapid young man and the vapid young woman who care for none of these things; but do we always ask ourselves——why? They were put on the table just before me, and then, just as I was going to eat some of them, they were snatched away, and I was told to get up and carry them off to some poor person in the village. If something agreeable should happen next year, there is no I, myself, to enjoy it; only the 'state of consciousness' of some moment to come.
At first, she's pleased to have so much attention, and enjoys the task of memorizing. Their work has been to assert and prove that every human soul is born free, that liberty is his inalienable right, and that an offence against the liberty of a human being is a capital offence. The most delicious puddings were talked of—— dilated on——until I became, not greedy, but exceedingly curious about them. He sees, as they saw in France, that the principle of the infallible reason is directly antagonistic to the idea of authority. We do not claim to be philosophers; we are modest and practical people looking out for a secure basis for education. In all matters physical exercise it is obvious to us that——do a thing a hundred times and it becomes easy, do a thing a thousand times and it becomes mechanical, as easy to do as not. The cuneiform or wedge-shaped letters in which it is written had long baffled all attempts to decipher them.
Augustus Hare has, apparently, what somebody calls a bad memory, i. A sound mind in a sound body is another factor. But her omniscience must be the kind that sees without watching, knows without telling, is always on the alert without being obvious about it. King Lewis's book The Child and Its Spiritual Nature, there's a cute story told by Miss Martineau about the intellectual awakening of 'a ten year old boy who plopped himself down on his tummy with Southey's Thalaba on the floor in front of him on the first day of his Easter vacation. Modern scientists have added a great deal to the sum of available knowledge which should bear on the conduct of those relations of oneself with oneself which are implied in the terms, self-management, self-control, self-respect, self-love, self-help, self-abnegation, and so on. They were brought under rule, and that rule was arbitrary and without appeal.
Little children are always eager to know; but the desire for knowledge seldom survives two or three years of school-life. They must be content to know that they do not understand, and, what is more, that they carry with them a chill breath of reality which sweeps away illusions. He begins to notice that there are resemblances between wild-rose and apple blossom, between buttercup and wood-anemone, between the large rhododendron blossom and the tiny heath floret. He helps the training of every child. Is this a hard saying for mothers in these anxious and troubled days? Such and similar attempts to fix the purpose of education are abundant in the history of pedagogy; but they do not bring us nearer the goal. The humanities do not always make a man humane, that is, liberal, tolerant, gentle, and candid, as regards the opinions and status of other men.