The most common one is that those passionate, romantic feelings you are feeling now will stay the same for the rest of your lives. Dowry is bad according to The Gita The is a Hindu scripture in Sanskrit that is a part of the Mahabharata. There are less complications of dating and finding someone right for you when it comes to arrange marriages, but who's to say that the person that has been designated to become your spouse is actually right for you? They would force the child to marry someone they despise because that person is rich. The reality is that people choose to get married for diverse reasons and romantic love is only one of them. I would expect an article such as yours to be on a religious site of some kind. Here are seven reasons why we feel love marriages are better than arranged marriages.
Your whole attitude dismisses the wellbeing of individuals in favour of some nebulous collective good. The rush of hormones makes you blind to things that should be red flags and can easily be seen by those who are not so affected. In a love marriage, your relationship with your to-be spouse is all that matters, and everything else becomes secondary. If you enjoyed this article, you may enjoy my other posts on Indian arranged marriages. My grandfather, however, only wanted to marry my grandmother because all of his friends were getting married.
Arranged marriage is absolutely horrible. My friend, Noor, is getting an arranged marriage. But I'm going to have a love marriage! Nevertheless it is always relative! Here are 10 reasons why we think arranged marriages are better than love marriages: 1. This understanding when tied to social obligations expected once married, are difficult to obey. They would not allow falling in love: that is dangerous, nobody knows where it will lead.
So, the decision to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Love is said to be the most powerful force in the earth! I want to marry someone I know that I'll love, I want to be in a relationship with someone that I am attracted to and is attracted to me. Hence i guess arranged marriages might work the ones that do if they have the above mindset, which is most of India. The quibbling about terms is ridiculous. Most indian couples consider their marriage as successful as time goes on. But couple tend to depend on their expectations. I think older people parents are better at deciding for an actually good partner because they know mostly what it takes to make a marriage work.
And that discontent is the beginning of the search for God. I would indeed go as far as to say that a person's success or lack of it could only become conclusive upon death. In fact, a good %age break up nowadays after the engagement due to disagreements that creep up later. That being said, many of the couples I mentioned are from our parents generation. If things are a little foggy for you as a potential marriage draws near,. To me arranged marriages mean that you're marrying just because.
It can be a same-sex marriage, and other things like that. This form of arranged marriage is rare, but in some parts of the world, such as the Middle East, and parts of Africa and Asia, it does exist. It can unleash hell especially in conservative societies where divorce is not an option. She's a grown woman that made her choice and now she's paying for it. Arranged marriages therefore last way longer and have very few marriage failures because there is a lot of third party involvement from both sides of the family wanting the marriage to be successful.
However, it is not that all love marriages break apart that easily. In love marriages partners are trying to impress each other, they are not ready to share their weaknesses. These are sometimes called arranged marriages, in contrast to love marriages, though there are many varieties of each. Comparing with arrange marriage love is best in all the sides. Invariably, people falling in love also happen to choose partners with a similar personality, background and attitude! When this occurs, parents on both sides then take over the arrangements. Having a divorced offspring may bring shame to a family. Problems occur when the partner doesn't like to accept their weaknesses after the marriage.
People shouldn't have to love someone because someone told them to. To support my view i would like to ask how do arranged marraiges take place? Though it may not happen in the same way, many people in arranged marriages state that they, too, gradually fell in love with their partners. Tolstoy explores the social condition of women in Russia and his characters in this fiction and novellas are women struggling with arranged marriages, marrying men who are way too older because it was arranged. You are married to a complete stranger and have to spend your days and nights together. His work suggests that feelings of love in love matches begin to fade by as much as a half in 18 months, whereas the love in the arranged marriages tends to grow gradually, surpassing the love in the unarranged marriages at about the five-year mark.
Irs the preborn love that holds you after you have lost everything. While for the woman: It's the only chance for romance, companionship, kids, and once they reach a certain age middle age or older the freedom to go where they wish without too much interrogation. How We Know the Divorce Rate is Falling. I mean the parents are not getting married to other parents. Through her seminars, training programs, and outreach, Diane helps couples navigate their marriages through the minefields of day-to-day issues and challenges.
This could be because people enter love marriages with a lot of expectations. Love really matters and if u cant stay really happy. As mentioned above, the level of expectation is much lesser in an arranged marriage. And once we become a part of that institution and commit to marriage, we have to keep nurturing that bond for the rest of our lives. Because marriage is a sacred thing, That people say its a trap but its not because you marry someone special that you will love and adore in your life. We all have flaws in ourselves but in a marriage we accommodate all those and you know how beautiful a mosaic painting looks. I have a dear male friend who is waiting to be wed in Mumbai.